Procrastination + Comparison
I'm sure you've experienced them both, either one at a time or both together. Ouch!
As if one of them on it's own wasn't bad enough, when the two are mixed, let's just say it's not a good feeling.
They are both so common, especially in the world we live in today, we have 24/7 access to the internet and social media. While it can be great in many many ways, we're often blindsided and fall into the trap of thinking we're not good enough, or that our life sucks, if we aren't mindful about how we use it.
I've been there and I'm sure you have too.
Let's say you have an essay to write, you start to research online to help inspire you and to find information to help you write it. Then you get a Instagram banner pop up that somebody has liked your photo/or commented, so you harmlessly take a look, after all it'll only take a few seconds right? You take a look and the next thing you know you've been scrolling mindlessly for an hour, in full procrastination mode and then comes it's evil sister, comparison...
Not only are you now heavily procrastinating, you're subconsciously comparing your life to others that you see on screen, not completely aware of all the negative things being consumed by your mind as you continue to scroll. It could be influencers in the Maldives or Bali making everything look easy, effortless and amazing and you slowly start to feel your self-worth and self-esteem drain from you completely, leaving you feeling empty, not good enough, worthless, numb...
Can you resonate with this? If you can, I feel you sister, you are not alone. It doesn't have to be like this and it doesn't mean giving up social media either, we can always find balance.
Firstly it's important to remember that what you see isn't reality, photos are posed, set up and made to look amazing, but what you don't see or hear are the conversations behind the photos, you can't feel their feelings, you don't know what they're thinking about. People can portray one thing but be feeling and thinking another.
Depression for example, somebody can appear super happy but be utterly depressed inside, it's just a mask, a front, but rip of the band aid and it'll reveal the deep wounds.
Comparison is the thief of joy, I'd go beyond that and say that comparison is a thief of much more than that. I was having a deep chat with a soul sister yesterday about comparison, one thing about it is that we hate to admit to it, because it feels pretty disgusting, you feel that you should not be thinking that way, it feels gross, like envy and jealousy. Neither are nice traits.
We can even compare ourselves to our best friends, whether it'